Someone consents to sexual activity or contact only if they…
‘Agree by choice . . . and have the freedom and capacity to make that choice.’
(Sexual Offences Act 2003).
The law says it's legal for you to agree – or consent – to sex from the age of 16. There is however, much more to consent than just being of the legal age. Whether it is with an acquaintance, a friend, an ex or with a boyfriend or girlfriend, it is your right to say no to any form of sexual activity or contact at any age and at any time. This is the same no matter your gender or sexual orientation. This forms an essential part of a healthy relationship.
Consenting to one form of sexual activity or contact doesn't mean someone consents to all activity. If a person is dressed in a certain way or is flirting, this is not an automatic invite. Similarly even if consent has been given for sexual activity in the past does not mean consent will automatically be given again.
Someone doesn't actually have to say the word 'no' to show a lack of consent. Body language that can imply 'no' can include being tense, frightened or nervous or not wanting to be touched, kissed or hugged.
Consent has not been freely given if someone feels pressured into it. Being pestered, intimidated or threatened (physically or emotionally) or being called 'frigid' , made to feel stupid/bad or encouraged to drink alcohol or take drugs are all forms of pressure.
Consent can be withdrawn at any time. Yes, even mid activity!
Consent can never be assumed. The easiest way to make sure consent is given is to ask before sexual activity occurs. If the person freely responds ‘yes’ (without force or pressure), this is consent.
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